How to develop your Personality?
Introduction
Have you ever noticed how some people just walk into a room and light up the place and have you always wanted to be like these people. So it’s time for a new you, a charismatic, magnetic attractive and more confident you. I’m going to give you seven sure short and super easy techniques to be this new person. How to be this attractive and magnetic personality. I’m going to give you the secret, tried and tested very very easy and surefire techniques to be this person.
Now with this we will talk about how to develop overall personality, what are the elements or the segments you have to work on and we will work on those things one by one and develop an overall great personality.
First of all why is personality important?
Personality is very very important whether you are going for an interview or you are presenting yourself anywhere you are on the stage, you are presenting yourself in front of the audience, you are sitting in a group, how is your personality there, so in many places your personality matters. So in personality there is not only appearance there are different segments. There are four things that come in your overall personality development and we will develop all of them one by one, gradually we will make them better, we will fold some of them and take them forward, develop good physical personality.
1. Good communication
Communication is, you and I communicate with each other, express our ideas, opinions, suggestions, now in what way do you have to communicate with the other person so that he is interested in, what you have to say and you are a good relationship builder, because I always say that a net worth is your network. So building good networks is very important in life. If you want grow, the first skill that you need is communication, whether it is verbal or nonverbal, which you are talking to others and non-verbal which you are not using your words but in the manner of communicating, you can talk about contact or talk in some other way.
Active listening
First of all, the most important part for good communication is active listening. you do not only have to be a good speaker, along with this you have to be a good listener, you also have to listen to the other person. Many people make the mistake of speaking their point, keep on speaking, keep on speaking, and do not listen to the other person at all. So just like that to be a good listener, second very important point is, the better you speak, the better you should also listen to people. Listen to them. When you do, do not find fault everywhere and one very important point, do not give advice for free, there are many people around us who give advice for free. You should not give, you have to listen. You have to do a job. Listen them and note down good things in your diary, take this quality in it, , be a very good listener to be a very good observer.
Maintain the Conversation Ratio:
Listening is this magnetic and strange thing like a creative force and the friend who listens to us is the one that we are drawn towards. So the perfect conversation ratio is 75% listening and 25% speaking, and also when someone is talking to you, cultivate the art of active listening, so like nodding your head and going like wow, yeah, amazing, really, superb. So when you’re listening to them they get really talking to you. Next, try to connect something that they told you the last time. for example hey buddy how’s your father doing. Now also avoid the “me too” syndrome. You know when somebody talks to us we have a tendency to say hey that happened to me too. But it’s not about you, it’s about them, and always maintain kind eyes and a warm appreciative smile and you’re going to see people attracted to you like a magnet.
Speaking with confidence
You always have to train yourself in confidence, you should not be nervous at all. Now confidence will come with practice. Keep practicing, keep practicing, practice makes a man perfect, I say this is wrong. You will not get perfection from this, perfection cannot be achieved, nobody is perfect, but improvement does come, the more you practice, the more you will improve, you will improve, improve, improve every time you practice, so what you have to do, you will have to practice for confidence also. You try to lead in a small friend circle for whatever you are preparing for. After that, if there is a family function at your home, you should lead there. You have to develop leadership skills. For example, if you are going on a tour, the whole bus is going or you are going in a car, lead this group of eight-ten people, from there you will gradually gain confidence. If you are going anywhere, talk to people, talk to strangers. If you are going to the gym, talk to people there, make contact, if you are going to a party, talk to people there, then in this way your confidence will build and say fluently, there is no problem, do not think that you have to speak in English, speak the language in which you are comfortable, you speak, just pick up with confidence.
Eye contact
Eye contact is a very important rule. You look into the eyes of the person in front, if you are able to see it in front. But check that, that means we always say very important points that you should notice, the color of the eyes of the person in front, what is the color, when you look this way, the person in front will feel that you are very much interested in and he also want to listen to it, then you will get a good relationship from there, a good communication structure will be formed.
Master the art of timing
It is the most important of all time, it is very important to say the right thing at the right time, there is a right time to say everything. There is a timing, you have to master it, this will again come with practice, where to appreciate whom, where to point out someone’s shortcomings. Many people even find faults and the other person doesn’t even feel bad. This skill has to be developed in time. To become a good leader, master the art of timing.
2. Physical appearance
How are the people looking at you, how are you presenting yourself that with your body language, the way you are walking. So, let’s move towards the next element which is physical appearance. In physical appearance, your clothes, your exercise and underground personal hygiene. you don’t have to buy very costly clothes, branded shoes, there is nothing like that. you can keep yourself simple, sober, but you have to look hygienic. You have to look attractive because along with communication, looking good is also important, physical appearance is important.
Clothes and shoes, mask neat and clean,
The clothes you wear, the shoes you wear. whenever someone notices you, he will look from bottom to top, don’t make the mistake of thinking that only your shoes, these shoes should not be clean. Your clothes should be very neat and clean. Your clothes should be very well ironed. Whatever you wear should look absolutely fit. If you are wearing a belt, then the belt and the shoes should match in colour. You can create a good contrast in your outfit. So start paying attention to the clothes and wear neat and clean clothes.
Accessories must be simple and sober.
In accessories, now whatever you are dressing up. There are many people who wear big chains and big bracelets. And this is not a big deal. You should have a simple and good watch. Now you can keep two or three watches according to different outfits. Whatever you wear, if you are wearing a good watch, then you can keep a basic watch. So, you have to be sober even in accessories. It will give you a good classic appearance. And if you look good, your confidence will shine out.
Maintain facial hairs and hairstyle
After this, maintain facial hairs and hairstyle. Have side whatever hairstyle you are keeping, whatever facial hair you are keeping, maintain it. If you also have heavy hair then maintain that as well. If you keep it shaved, maintain that as well. Maintain your proper facials, keep it trimmed in every way, also very well groomed.
You must smell gentle,
You use a good basic spray. Doing so that whoever you meet will get a good smell, a good smell and you should remember till far that yes brother I met someone very nice, positivity came. So this is another element of our physical appearance which is very important for your overall personality development. Add everything to your body, don’t forget to improve it, so definitely improve all day today.
3. Body language
Next very important part is body language. Use hands so when I request a friend through hands, you are able to relate better. This dish is the hotspot of body language.
Just talk with your hands.
First of all, talk with her hands. You should talk with your hands. You don’t have to dance too much to start. Whatever you want to say, use your hands in that way. If you use your hands properly, then you will be able to communicate better. You will be able to ask better questions and the look in your personality is pure gold.
Smile
Always smile with every person, always be happy. Express yourself laughing. There is no problem in your laughing. In this way, the smile should be very good. It should not be too soft. It should look good. One should be good with smile in personality. And one should not be too aggressive in front of someone very powerful.
Good handshake.
Have a Good handshake or Say “hello” from a distance.
Use your neck non-periodically
Use your neck accordingly. If you are commenting on it then show interest, show yourself as a good listener and manage all the things. Use your neck to see how you are understanding things.
4. Etiquites (manners)
The next element is Etiquettes and guess what happens that your manners are visible in front of everyone in this way.
Don’t say Rude things.
How are people noticing, never say reverse thanks in harsh words, and if people ask questions from rude things, always avoid using words with a smile. Always use good words because it is a small world, here you are definitely going to meet a person again and again or maynot. If you are angry, then handle it in a way that doesn’t hurt others. This part of very good personality is important.
Be cooperative
Cooperation let’s you to do team building in your team. If you are doing team building, you have to be cooperative, not egoist. Suppose you are teacher, when you get late in your class, you never say sorry. At the end you will not say that you are getting late, you will not say thank you for your patience. So think like this, if you say sorry, then it will be a different level combination,
Say thank you
If you say thank you, then it will be a different level combination. By thanking you I am making the other person feel more superior. To learn how to appreciate, you have to say thank you, be thankful.
Say sorry
Next say sorry. Here we need Sorry where thank you does not work. Say sorry if genuinely you did something which is wrong.
5. Ice Breaker Jokes
Famous actor Jim carrey once said that i become more attractive when i laugh at myself. now no friendly conversation is complete without some leg pulling and laughing and a person becomes truly charismatic when they can confidently laugh at themselves. It shows that they are comfortable in their own skin and it kind of relaxes the group immediately. They see the more human side of you and warm up to you instantly. So have a good laugh at yourself.
6. Name Card
You know in the Egyptian mythology Re, the sun god had to walk through the darkness every night and defend off these monsters and the only reason why the monsters couldn’t attack him was, because he knew their true names and this idea of the true names giving you power also is seen in some sci-fi movies and the same theme runs through the german fairy tale of Rumpelstiltskin. so knowing somebody’s name is like having some power over them. so when you’re talking to somebody, use their name frequently like hey arun, how have you been, haven’t seen you in a while. Now don’t crazily overdo it and the big mistake here is don’t fumble. Make sure you remember their name and you use it frequently.
7. The "Secret" Strategy
In his book “Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion” by Robert Cialdini, he talks about the scarcity principle. He says that when something is scarce or it’s in shortage, people find it attractive. Now for a person we call it the secret strategy, which means that if you tell somebody a secret, they kind of think that you trust them and in turn they trust you back. so if you want this close circle of friends, make sure that you tell them a little secret about yourself and they’re gonna like you that much more and trust you also a little more and feel closer to you. But make sure that you’re telling them your own secret and don’t tell the secret of friend A to friend B, because that’s like gosipping.
8. Roots of Interest
Now have you ever met a person who can bore you to death by talking about the same topic over and over again. Now a charismatic person is one who can talk fluently on a wide range of topics. so the key here is to develop passion and interest in different topics while being sensitive to others and respecting their own may be preferences, thoughts and opinions, and also when you show interest in something they’re passionate about, they’re certainly going to get attracted towards you.
9. Magnet of Friends
Now if you have this home of friends and build this great relationship with people by socializing often it’ll be a great source of confidence for you. But it’s important to be genuinely kind, caring helpful and appreciative of people. People actually like you not only for who you are but for how you make them feel, and if you make them feel good then you will be this perfect magnet for all your friends.
10. Art of Saying "No"
I know how difficult it is to get out of bed on a weekend especially after you’ve had a really tiring week. But what’s more difficult is to say no to this over excited friend for a group meetup. It’s kind of this fine balance between being a likable and a rude person. But a charismatic and confident person is one who can say “no” politely and yet firmly. So you could say, Sorry i don’t think i’ll be able to do this today, for some opportunity that you may not be able to fully oblige, or no thanks, i don’t think i need this today to a pushy salesperson or you can say thank you, but i think i’ll give it a miss or i’m afraid i have another commitment for an unwanted invitation and if you say all of this with a smile you will sound like a firm and confident person without sounding arrogant.
Conclusion
In conclusion, developing your personality is a continuous and rewarding journey that involves self-awareness, positive habits, and a willingness to grow. By focusing on qualities such as confidence, communication, empathy, and resilience, individuals can enhance not only how they see themselves but also how they interact with the world. Personal growth doesn’t happen overnight, but with consistent effort, openness to feedback, and a desire to improve, anyone can shape a personality that reflects their best self. Ultimately, a well-developed personality opens doors to better relationships, professional success, and a more fulfilling life.